Potty at Daycare

So, we have had some challenges with Taylor generalizing her potty skills to the daycare environment. We first toilet trained her at home at about 15 months and then decided to start the training at daycare. Taylor showed some resistance to the toilet at daycare, crying when she was taken to the toilet and saying "no potty" whenever anyone attempted to take her. The teachers stopped keeping her in undies and said that they put a pull up on whenever I left because if she had an accident they would have to clear out the room and clean everything up (should've been the first clue). After our trip to Kauai Taylor was okay with sitting on the potty but she was not initiating (and her teachers said that she may be asking but they do not hear her...second clue). We kept sending her in undies for a while until everyday wet undies were coming back home and I would arrive to absolutely full pull ups (showing that she hadn't been changed in hours). Taylor had then learned that being wet in a pull-up was okay so why would a 17 month old ask to use the restroom when that behavior was never reinforced and it was okay to be wet in a pull-up?! Taylor went on vacation for a week at her grandparents and I thought it may be a good break for Taylor. She came back to daycare and again was more willing to go to the toilet and was going pee-pee when she was taken. After a few days of showing up at the end of the day to absolutely soaked pull-ups, I glanced at the potty log by the toilet (Taylor always uses the toilet when I show up). It was noted that Taylor was taken to the toilet ONCE that day and another girl who is almost transitioned to the other class was taken to the toilet every time they changed diapers (5 or 6 times). I was fuming and decided to wait to talk to the directors because I was so emotional and mad. I cried the whole way home and was in a bad mood all night. I truly have the protective mother feeling now and was so mad for my daughter's sake. That was Monday. Today, Wednesday, I sat down to speak with the Directors when I picked up Taylor. Everything I was telling them was new to them and they completely agreed that things should have been done differently. They were very apologetic and agreed that Taylor should not be put in a pull-up at all. Per the directors, she will be in undies all the time and yes, she will have accidents. I agreed and said at least she'll learn that she can't keep wet undies or pull-ups on. One director said, "it's what we do!" in frustrating that her staff was not doing what they are supposed to be doing and here I was having to explain how I thought things should have gone. It was a very friendly and understanding conversation and I think everything will go smoothly this time around...I hope!

So, when Taylor's head teacher returns on Monday Taylor will be in ONLY underwear and they will be putting her on the toilet every 30 minutes (for sure this time...not just say that they are doing it). So, I am much happier and hope that it goes better this time around. Will keep you posted!